Identify the Person and the Pain
“(Person), you hurt me by _____ and it hurts because you were my _______”.
Express the Fears and the Hurts that Developed
“Father, I now see that I’ve been living in fear of ___________________ (scheme). I give to you my past, a past full of fears and a life reacting to anxious moments. Set me free from this pattern, this fear.”
“Father, it angers me that this happened.” What happened? Share your pain with God.
Forgive & Release the Offender
“However, I chose today to release (_____) from my judgment and my desire to have you pay for your wrongdoing with the weight (severity) and scale I would choose for/against you. I choose to hand you over to God for only he is just and wise enough to judge us all. I pray that He will show you favor and mercy the way He has shown me.”
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” - Lewis B. Smedes
Ask for Healing and Pray for the (Offender)
Start with - “God please heal my wounds”.
Continue with - “God please have mercy on _____.”
Now bless that person, ask God to show favor on that person.
"Forgive" God and Release Self
“God I let go of my anger against you for I thought you allowed this or wanted this to happen. I was hurt that this wasn’t stopped by you. I forgive myself for feeling like I should have stopped this or not let this happen. I couldn’t have (or simply didn’t) stopped it. So I forgive myself as well.”
Repent of Living in Fear
“I chose no longer to live like this, I will live by faith, knowing I am made whole in you. I don't have to control people or situations in order to avoid hurt again. I don't have to isolate myself in order to avoid hurt again. I don't have to fear rejection constantly. I choose to live out a new story, a new script.”
Repent of Vows Made
I will no longer make promises to be different than the person who hurt me.
I will choose to give people the benefit of the doubt.
I will no longer judge people.
I Will Live By Faith
Father, I choose today to live by faith.
I can do this because You are the God who ______________ (place the name of God you picked). Your perfect love, displayed on the Cross through your Son, has casted out all fear in me.
I have nothing to fear. I will love people without fear. In Jesus name, Amen.
“Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” - Jesus